So while I worked hard outside of my full time plus some job in order to make some more natural/from scratch/full of flavor and specialty cakes for an old AMAZING friend, (check out my small freezer and fridge)..
While trying to focus on how amazing my friend is and how I was creating cakes just for her. I had something secretly pulling at my leg. I won't even mention. But lets just say, I am a trooper. A total trooper every day. And you better bet I am damn proud of it. I finished some great cakes, watched one of the best people I know marry a great guy, shed some tears as she walked down the isle in the dress I helped her pick, shed some tears as people gave speeches, shed some tears as I thought about the amazing person she has created herself to be, and then I had one FUN time with friends. Many compliments on the cake, and it was one beautiful evening full of friends, happiness, and laughter, even though I had to face something of the past at the exact time. It was good to know that I could actually have the courage and finally be able to just live my own life and not let another person control my happiness. As much as it is important to ignore the folks who do no good for us as individuals, or those who bring us down, I often think of how we must all have compassion for others and think of how others may be feeling daily. Sometimes it is hard to do - like when some random stranger snaps at you in your apartment laundry room, or when that cashier doesn't even shed a smile or even look at you and say a word. As a matter of fact, sometimes I am really bothered when people bring their anger out on me.. but then I have to try to remember "Maybe, this person isn't feeling well today. Maybe they are sick," "Maybe they are having a bad day," "Maybe.... a family member is sick or their home-life isn't well." We must stand up for ourselves and only allow good people into our lives, not let those who continuously hurt even be a part of our life. Maybe be polite to such people, and be graceful about not getting to close. We create our own happiness. We have the ability to walk away from those who are damaging to us. We have the possibility to choose good and make good out of the bad. Always. Aside from the people that really could hurt and hinder our capability of success, it is important to be kind to people on a daily basis. And for that..
"In life you can never be too kind or too fair; everyone you meet is carrying a heavy load. When you go through your day expressing kindness and courtesy to all you meet, you leave behind a feeling of warmth and good cheer, and you help alleviate the burdens everyone is struggling with."
So in the end, I was extremely proud of pulling through making great cakes, having the time of my life, and walking away with nothing but being proud of myself. But also, getting into the moment of each and every one of the cakes and thinking "THIS IS THE MOMENT." I was able to be 100 percent me and feel my work. Play with chocolate, move my hands, and mix, and use great ingredients. It was a huge compliment when the place that held the event asked if I'd be interested in working for them. We must take time for what we believe in and always keep to our roots.
We must also remember to be a person that we always thought we were, aside from what anyone else has maybe told us or pushed us to believe, remember who we want to be.. and stick to it. Of the crappy people I've encountered in the past.. I am really glad to have the good ones in my life. Glad to have the kind ones. Life is pretty great. Be the type of people you want to meet - Be kind, be caring, be knowledgeable, be honest, be courteous, be polite, be selfless, be motivated, be creative, be gentle, be good.
I am posting these cakes late, and now today is Father's Day and as I thought of my own father and my brothers which I am proud of, I thought of those maybe less fortunate who aren't as lucky as me who maybe didn't grow up with a father. Maybe their father died, or maybe they just didn't grow up in as healthy of a home as I -- I think of how we can better such situations. What can we do to make the world a better place? How can we create good out of bad and help any situation from the base of the issue? There are solutions. Maybe small, but anything can make a difference. How can we help children see that they have the possibility to create their own life and have a good attitude, to focus on the good, and to make better decisions to actually have the opportunity to create a better life for themselves. How can we help those see the good men and that they could also be that. To make another person happy, be kind to them. To make yourself happy, be kind to others. As I thought of those in worse situations, I also thought of how I really want to be able to depend on people. I like people who aren't selfish - But if I look for that in others.. am I ever selfish? This goes back to the fact that we must be the person we want to meet. And after cakes for my friends wedding and facing pain, I realize who I was before I met anyone damaging. I realize the person I want to be and the type of person that I look for in others. It is my duty to always be this person. No matter what. We have the possibility to create good.
As my friend who got married once said, "Be a person to Admire."
Also this is always important to remember and it makes me think of how I've gotten through hard times and how it's important to remind others of this in time of need, and maybe just maybe someone needs to be reminded of this now:
There are times in life
When you feel as if the earth
Has opened up
And swallowed you whole . . .
And you seriously doubt
If you'll ever stop hurting.
And it's then that you need
To realize you can't
“Make everything all right.”
All you can do is survive,
One hour at a time,
Then one day at a time.
But you are not alone.
There are many who care about you
And are ready to lend you their strength
When yours is all gone.
So hang on, because the sun
Will rise again . . .
And though you'll
Never forget,
You will survive this
And go on.
And here is a fun video of the wedding by Studio Blu Photography --
http://vimeo.com/67021306
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